10 Things I Love About September 11th

I know how weird that must sound, to love anything about September 11th, but here goes:

On this day:

1. I am comforted in knowing that I will hear from friends and family from far and wide and know they are thinking about me, Arron and the kids.
2. I am reminded of Arron in all his Fabbo-ness*. It keeps the good memories alive.
3. I am grateful for all that I/we have.
4. I can feel Arron’s pride in his children.
5. Everyone remembers that sense of community that we all felt in the days following that sad day with smiles and small kindnesses.
6. I reflect on new ways to “pay it forward”
7. Its usually sunny with a bright blue sky, a hint of fall in the air.
8. TV viewing is banned in our house
9. I often do an interview or two where I can talk about making “lemonade” from grief and loss
10. I notice the little things

*A small reminder of Arron’s Fabbo-ness:

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  1. anniegirl1138 September 11, 2009 at 1:54 pm

    Great photo. Hope it's a beautiful day for you.

  2. Anonymous September 11, 2009 at 2:02 pm

    Hi – I worked with Arron at Capco – just wanted to say hello and wish you well today.

  3. Suddenwidow September 11, 2009 at 2:40 pm

    Thanks for being an inspiration and demonstrating that through sadness and grief we still can find positives. You are a shining example that life does go on.

    On a personal note, every year on Sept 11th I think of all the families grieving and it wasn't until this year that I could relate in a much more real way to your grief. And though I wish we both had our husbands and were living our old lives, if I have to be on this path anyway, I am honoured to be walking in your footsteps. Your book and blog have given me much comfort in knowing that women survive their husband's death, no matter how much it doesn't feel like they will.

    Thinking of you all today.

  4. Lis September 11, 2009 at 8:43 pm

    Thank you for listing the love.
    Great photo.
    Thinking of you and so many others today.

  5. Jackie September 12, 2009 at 12:05 am

    You were never far from my thoughts today, Abigail.
    Can I add one more thing to your list?
    11. This day has enabled you to be a beacon to those of us who are embarking upon widowhood after you. Your strength and laughter have shown me that I, too, can keep going because I know someone else who has had to too. Thank you for being a wise old widow to me…;)
    Love ya. Thinking of you. xo

  6. Mel September 12, 2009 at 2:14 am

    Thought of you many times today.
    Sending love to you and your family.

  7. Peg September 12, 2009 at 11:06 am

    Thinking of you. How time keeps marching…huh?
    Love, Peg

  8. Silindile Ntuli September 15, 2009 at 2:03 pm

    Loss is the hardest thing to deal with, stay strong

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