After Happily Ever After

I would like to write another book, but I am having a problem finding a topic. At my bravest, I would write about finding love after loss and all its perils. It would mean baring more than just my soul (and I am not sure how naked on the page I really want to be), and I worry that much about love and dating has already been told by others. I guess I question my unique experience. I question the universality of my experience. Finding love again has been fraught with confusion, missteps, poor decisions and no real happy endings. Perhaps that is the story.Having written already about the bright side of loss and grief, I wonder if I am prepared to delve into the netherworld of dating. And how to protect the privacy of those who have dared to love me?
My second idea is to write a sequel to my first book. The move to Seattle, writing the book, etc. In trying to figure out this sequel for myself I keep staggering into the mental block of whether or not this story is compelling enough to sell. Perhaps only my tragedy was. Now that I have been plopped back into a routine daily life, I wonder what it is I have to offer to the world. It seems possible that the highs and lows of tragedy are in themselves addicting. No one wants to hear the story after “happily ever after”… Hiho.

3 Comments

  1. SoloMother October 13, 2008 at 5:43 pm

    Dating is hard, period. I know too many single mothers who have decided that what they have — their friends, their children, their jobs — is enough, and that dealing with romance and a man in their lives is too hard. I respect that decision, but the romantic in me still hopes that everyone finds a second chance at love.

    I’d write a book called, “A Thousand First Dates” and try to figure out how I got from four suitcases and $400 to where I am now… and all those coffees, lunches, dinners, and then somes I met along the way.

    Luck to you. There are no rules, only rights. Enjoy everything you choose.

  2. Crash Course Widow October 14, 2008 at 1:22 pm

    As a widow, I’d certainly be interested in one about what widowhood is like AFTER that first year. It’s often a frustration I have with widows’ books, now that I’m far past the first year: I want to know what happened later, how the experience changed over time. And certainly dating as a widow is something I’m curious about. I’ve dated some since being widowed, but I always want to know what intimately goes through the minds of other widows as they muddle their way through dating. I haven’t looked too deeply, but I don’t know how many widow/dating books there are out there. Or at least not ones specifically with a focus around the grief and changing life outlook while trying to find a new love. Yeah, finding love again in general has been written to death, but it’s something that, I imagine, is on the minds of a lot of people.

    Looking forward to reading your book! I’m trying to avoid starting to read it too early, so that my review of it isn’t written long before I post it on Dec. 1.

  3. anniegirl1138 October 14, 2008 at 4:48 pm

    I think either would be good topics.

    I am going to start my memoir soon with a heavier emphasis on the “after” part: the dating, meeting my current husband and moving from the U.S. to Canada.

    Will anyone read it, or publish it for that matter? I don’t know. A publisher whose blog I read (and a few writers as well) talk about the importance of writing because the story is in you to tell and worrying about the its “sellibility” (is that a word?) later. A compelling, heart-told story never gets old no matter how many times different authors tell it. After all, there are similar themes in life but we all still live different ones.

    I am waiting on a copy of your book for the TLC Tour and am looking forward to reading it.

Leave A Comment