Comments for Abigail Carter: the Alchemy of Loss: A Young Widow’s Transformation

Comment on The Ghost of Mother’s Days Past by BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Tue, 15 May 2012 23:09:54 +0000

This is very poignant, and I can relate just a little bit, though my circumstances are very different than yours. My children were not with me this year (for the first time in years), but the phone calls were sweet and chatty, and the fact that they remembered and sounded good meant a great deal.

Sometimes the spaces left by what isn’t there seem greater than the populated spaces. Other times, life fills every corner. And we’re grateful.

Wishing you well.

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by Abigail

Abigail — Thu, 10 May 2012 20:34:55 +0000

Thanks mum. I’m sure I wasn’t the “perfect” teen. Moody probably since I hated being one.
Thanks for the words of wisdom and support. XO

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by Kitten Mother

Kitten Mother — Fri, 04 May 2012 22:26:20 +0000

You WERE pretty close to perfect as a teen and I think that this makes this apathy in your own kids almost impossible for you to understand.

However, your talk with them was actually very respectful because it put the responsibility for their own success squarely on their shoulders.

Don’t back down. The seed has been planted! Relax and enjoy them. It IS up to them and they are smart enough to get it.

Well done!

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by Abigail

Abigail — Fri, 04 May 2012 15:52:19 +0000

Haha! I guess I better not mention the correct spelling of Abby… You are forgiven. Now what was I saying about learning through failure?

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by Abigail

Abigail — Fri, 04 May 2012 15:51:11 +0000

Oh yes! Outward Bound. I’m all for it! Teen Boot Camp! Bring it on! There’s nothing like learning these lessons the hard way, through good, old fashioned failure. Hmmm. Maybe that will be my next post…

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by Abigail

Abigail — Fri, 04 May 2012 15:49:31 +0000

Not sure why I find it so surprising. I do remember learning it the hard way, but don’t recall ever receiving such a speech. Probably because I was the perfect teenager
Thanks for your comment Annie. I think you win as my most reliable commenter! I so appreciate it.

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by Salty

Salty — Fri, 04 May 2012 07:00:55 +0000

You’re not your! Geez where’s the edit button! So embarrassing;(

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by Salty

Salty — Fri, 04 May 2012 06:58:41 +0000

Tough stuff Abbey. Effort, gratitude, appreciation, persistence are a little bit rare among teens. Boarding school, outward bound were invented for teens that don’t get it yet. That you get out of life what you put into it, your responsible for your own bliss not mom, teachers or the world. Some get it young others take awhile or longer or never. I’m not certain you can make someone get it before they are ready. Hang in there. Your a good mom Abigail.

Comment on Teaching Kids Work Ethics by Having a Temper Tantrum. Lessons in Effective Parenting. by annie

annie — Thu, 03 May 2012 19:33:15 +0000

I know that speech. I have given it as a parent, a teacher and a even a coach. I can’t recall if I ever heard it as a child, student or player – but I bet I did. I had to have learned it from someone.

But I don’t think this counts as stepping forward or back as much as it might be a lateral move. Repositioning is good.

Comment on Single Mother vs. Surgery: No contest by Abigail

Abigail — Thu, 03 May 2012 17:42:49 +0000

Cindy,

I am looking forward to the day when my kids reciprocate. Not holding my breath though