Abigail Carter: the Alchemy of Loss: A Young Widow’s Transformation

I may need to get this brown corduroy vest as part of my new work ensemble. I seemed to have developed a certain amount of ambivalence with regard to my dating life which may be why this New York Times Article resonated with me. Sure, I still have my profile...

This past weekend, I helped a widower friend clean out his basement where he had compiled a married life’s worth of junk. And books. Stacks and stacks of books that he tells me his wife had collected over the years. And I thought I was a book junkie! We...

Among the million other things I have on my plate at the moment, I am attempting to follow a seven-week course called “Calling in ‘The One’.” I mention this sheepishly, since it sounds kind of hokey. Plus, the website is all pink with lots of swirly script-type fonts, which...

Perhaps I need to reconsider the rock climbing idea... Nude Rock Climber - Photographed by Peter Torsal (http://www.torsal.de/) I got an email from a recent widow yesterday expressing fear of ever having a meaningful relationship again. I was at a bit of a loss about what to tell her....

I’ve been slogging away on my chapter about Love Addiction. I keep writing and every time I finish a sentence, it feels like the next sentence should be “I guess I really need to attend a Love Addicts Anonymous meeting.” I will admit that I am curious, but something...

I got an email from a reader and asked her permission to post it here: Your book and posts have been a great source of comfort for me.  ____ has been gone 14 months now and I feel myself slipping back into despair.  Our children are 11 (boy) and 13...

Despite all that chatter about staying stuck in widowhood, or perhaps because of it, I have been attempting to write about Arron for the new book I hope to write. Oddly, I am finding this infinitely difficult to do and keep finding ways of distracting myself, so I don’t...

My last post generated quite a lively discussion and so I thought I would try and hone in on some of the issues it raised. In particular, Shafeen’s comment: Perception is an interesting and complex thing – it is generally created with a few “sticky” labels – and once...

I’ve been doing some research for the book proposal I have been writing (more on that later) and have come across a book called Labyrinth of Desire: Women, Passion and Romantic Obsession by Rosemary Sullivan. In it she investigates the reason we love the way we do. She uses...

Lately, I’ve been trying out a new dating site, OKCupid. Its free which is nice, and well organized. They have a perplexing array of questions that you answer (very eHarmony-esque), which they use along with some complicated algorithm to find you matches. I’ve had a few dates from it...