Despite all that chatter about staying stuck in widowhood, or perhaps because of it, I have been attempting to write about Arron for the new book I hope to write. Oddly, I am finding this infinitely difficult to do and keep finding ways of distracting myself, so I don’t...
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The Spider
Perpetuating Loss Redux
My last post generated quite a lively discussion and so I thought I would try and hone in on some of the issues it raised. In particular, Shafeen’s comment: Perception is an interesting and complex thing – it is generally created with a few “sticky” labels – and once...
...continue readingLabyrinth of Desire
I’ve been doing some research for the book proposal I have been writing (more on that later) and have come across a book called Labyrinth of Desire: Women, Passion and Romantic Obsession by Rosemary Sullivan. In it she investigates the reason we love the way we do. She uses...
...continue readingDriving Past Cougar Town
Lately, I’ve been trying out a new dating site, OKCupid. Its free which is nice, and well organized. They have a perplexing array of questions that you answer (very eHarmony-esque), which they use along with some complicated algorithm to find you matches. I’ve had a few dates from it...
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It seems that along with the perils of blogging and online dating comes the online break-up, sometimes as an indirect result of a post. My last blog-post opened an email dialogue between Seattle and Hawaii (where CHA is on a long visit) that I hadn’t anticipated. Some issues had...
...continue readingThe Spirituality of Skepticism: A Crossroads
You may remember that I spoke not too long ago with a woman who was an astrologer/medium who talked quite a bit about past lives, which played quite nicely into a piece of fiction I have been working on. Jo’ann suggested during the reading that I read a book...
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My friend Theo Nestor has just written an essay on dating as a widow for Match.com based on an interview we did together. Thought some of you might be interested. ...
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I spent a good deal of the day yesterday doing some spring cleaning of my email inbox at the advice of my friend Mark at Good Experience who extols the virtues of decluttering email inboxes (and who writes a truly interesting newsletter and puts on one of the most...
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Sitting in a car, that was parked in a ferry slicing across the Puget Sound on a sunny mother’s day, he looked at me with a pained expression. We had spent a night on Vashon together with Carter and I had made a gaffe. Sleeping arrangements were taking us...
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Spring morning, Vashon Island, WA with view of Mt. Rainier A perfect spring morning, the water smooth, teal silk. The mountain shows its shy face, both miniature and overwhelming at once. Tea on the deck in the sun after a cold, blustery, soggy Seattle week. The mothers are called one...
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Learning to live again after the sudden death of my husband Arron on 9/11. I wrote my book, The Alchemy of Loss, as a testament to finding the silver lining of grief and loss, to discovering the defibrillator effect of trauma and its power to awaken us into really living. I now live in Seattle with my two teenaged kids.
