What Happens if YOU die?

I had an essay published yesterday in More.com, something anyone can do, so its kinda cool.

It raises the issue that I am sure many single parents go through, particularly ones where one parent is not in the picture in any way, either through death or abandonment, where the kids become anxious that something is going to happen to their sole parent. Its an issue that I am often dealing with, so much so that I have had to get my son professional help for anxiety. It played into the issue I was having recently with regards to sleepovers.

But maybe, its just something all kids go through. It’s my perpetual question: Is this normal kid behavior, or is it grief-related?

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  1. won June 8, 2009 at 12:47 pm

    I second your perpetual question. I hate second guessing everything. It took me a long time to realize that not all my son's behavior was related to him losing his sister.

    My heart aches for your son. What a horrible cloud to have to live under. I can absolutely imagine myself living the same way if I were him. When I was 18, my 29 year old sister in law died. I was positive I was not going to live past 29.

    May I speak for both of us and say that we trulyl long for innocent, carefree childhoods for our children and know they can not and will not have them?

  2. Suddenwidow June 8, 2009 at 2:14 pm

    Great article, Abby! And so timely for me, where I'm just starting to see my children really worry about me dying too, just like Dad. Once again, I appreciate knowing we're not alone. On a completely different note, I get the Canadian addition of More but I'm going to check out this new site. Thanks! Hope your ultrasound is clear!

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